Friday, September 28, 2012

A Ride on the Bus



A Ride on the Bus
As we left the Emergency Room of Cedar City Hospital, my wife and I had a problem. Cedar City, Utah, is a fine place to live, but we lived in Santa Maria, California. We had five young children, each other, and one wrecked van. A middle-age man with a cheery disposition introduced himself to us.
“Hello,” he said, “My name is Keith Anderson. I’m a social worker here at the hospital. My job is to help patients with non-medical problems.”
With his help, we obtained a motel room. Cindy and the children stayed there while I dealt with the Utah Highway Patrol accident investigators, insurance adjusters, tow truck driver and wrecking yard operator. Keith also helped me package what belongings we could salvage. We filled about three good sized boxes. This process took most of the day.
We decided the best way for us to get home was to take a Greyhound bus to Los Angeles and then to Santa Maria. What I really should have done was call on the phone and pled for someone to pick us up and take us home. But with a large family and lots of belongings, that didn’t strike us as practical. The Greyhound from Cedar City to LA left at 12:05 pm and 8:30 pm. It was already 10 am when we told Keith we would take the bus. We figured we would take the 8:30 bus, since we didn’t have time to get packed, get some money, and buy our bus tickets. Keith insisted we could get ourselves to the 12:05 bus. To our amazement, we were at the bus station, ready to go, ten minutes before the bus left.
The last thing this man said to us was “The impossible just takes longer.”
In Cedar City, we were told we would arrive in Los Angeles at 10:30 pm and depart for the coastal cities at 12:30 am. We dreaded the layover in LA, but decided to hang in there.


Taking five young children on a long bus ride does not sound easy, and it’s not. But our children were very well behaved and totally cooperative. Eventually, they all fell asleep.
At about 10:30 pm, our bus drove past the drunks on skid row, passed a gang breaking into a parked car, and into the large Greyhound Bus Terminal. We dragged our family off the bus and into the waiting area. We had a two hour wait and there were no empty seats in sight. It gets worse. Just because it seemed like the thing to do, we went to the Information Desk, which was in the center of the waiting area. I read the list of departure times for the buses heading up the coast towards our destination. The only route that listed Santa Maria as a stop left five hours later, at 3:30 am. Cindy insisted we ask the man at the information desk about the 12:30 am bus. Yes, we were told, the 12:30 bus did stop in Santa Maria. That was a momentary relief, but it gets better. A mechanic at the Information Desk overheard us.
He asked, “Where are you going?”
“Santa Maria.”
“Santa Maria? Go to Door 2 right now. The bus is about to leave.” Door 2 was about a hundred feet away. We grabbed our younger children and told the older children to hurry up. In mere seconds, we were on the other side of Door 2. The door was closed and the driver had just started the engine. We pounded on the door and she opened the door and asked where we were going. We told her we were going to Santa Maria and she asked for our tickets. Cindy whipped our tickets out of her purse so fast, you could feel the breeze.
“Get on,” she said. She didn’t have to tell us twice. Once we were settled in, Cindy and I looked at each other in total amazement. A two hour layover had turned into a five hour layover which had turned back into a two hour layover and finally turned into a sprint from one bus to another.  
A few hours later, we saw the typical summer fog over the Santa Maria Valley.  It was the only time I have actually felt good seeing that gloomy accumulation of low clouds, because it meant we were close to home.
We were able to replace our van, our bruises healed, and my ego restored. But we have remained thankful that we survived the accident with so little injury. The results could have been so much worse. We have also remained thankful the mechanic overheard us and spoke up. Perhaps it was a mere coincidence. Perhaps “Someone Up There” felt we had been through a lot and we needed a break. Whichever it was, we thank God it happened.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Terror on Interstate 15.



Terror on Interstate 15
July 5, 1984 was a beautiful, hot summer day in southern Utah. It seems long ago, but I’ll always remember what happened to our family on that fateful day. I was pulling a rented camping trailer from Yellowstone to our home in Santa Maria. My wife, Cindy, and our five children were having a fantastic vacation that ended when the trailer started to fishtail.
I desperately attempted to stabilize the rig by accelerating and braking, but the swerve worsened. Finally, the weight of the trailer pulled the van completely around and we skidded into the freeway meridian. Our van flipped over, accompanied by the sound of crunching metal and screaming people. My initial thought was we would be okay, since we were either wearing seat belts or secured in car seats.
We came to rest right side up, but the terror was only beginning. The crash had demolished the trailer and broken the connection to the propane tank. With a loud hiss, highly flammable propane was leaking just feet away from the opened back door of our van. We were one spark away from one really big fire. Cindy jumped out and attempted to open the sliding side door. Since it was crunched closed, she rushed back in and grabbed the baby, Rachel, from her car seat. Meanwhile, I helped our oldest, seven year old David, to escape.
“Run, David, run,” I shouted. Five year old April and three year old John were in the back seat, crying with terror. I lifted April over the middle seat, put her near the front door, and told her to run. I pulled John from his car seat and rushed out to join everyone else. As we huddled from a safe distance, wondering if the propane would burst into flames, we suddenly realized that two year old Katie was still in the wreckage.
 “Katie!” my wife screamed, “Get her Mike.” When a bystander heard there was another child to be rescued, he rushed into the van.  At this time, we didn’t know if she was alive, hurt, or dead, or if the propane would burst into flames, killing both her and her rescuer.  Moments later, he emerged with a very confused, but alive, little girl and handed her to me.
“Thank you,” I cried, as he nonchalantly walked away.
The propane never caught fire, but the van was wrecked, the trailer demolished, and our stuff was strewn everywhere. We didn’t lose anything irreplaceable.
 We mostly had bumps and bruises. Katie was bruised the most because her car seat wasn’t properly secured and tumbled loose during the crash. I was glad we were okay, but I felt like an idiot for almost killing myself and my family.
Several minutes after the crash, a Utah Highway Patrolman rushed to the scene. When I told him we were all safe, he breathed an audible sound of relief. He was dreading a bloody accident with severe injuries and fatalities. He told me that an ambulance was on the way to take us to a hospital in Cedar City. The ambulance crew and the emergency room doctors and nurses were more than glad to deal with bumps and bruises rather than mangled bodies.
A week after we got home, we were sent a newspaper clipping of our accident. The headline was “BUCKELED UP FAMILY SAFE AFTER ROLLOVER.” The article stressed that everyone was wearing seat belts and all of our small children were in car seats.
I guess I wasn’t such a total idiot after all. By the way, we never again had to nag our children to fasten their seat belts.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Lost in the Garden State

Lost in the Garden State
First of all, I must insist that May of 1982 was not in the Dark Ages. Well, maybe we did have a couple of feet in the Dark Ages, but we didn’t know it at the time. Cell phones and satellite navigation were still the realm of science fiction. These modern conveniences would have come in very handy when we got lost.
My wife and I were taking our three young children on a cross country trip. Prior to this adventure, the furthest east I had ever been was Chicago. Our last stop was Washington D.C. Our next stop was Ocean City, New Jersey. We had several maps, but for some reason, we didn’t have a good map of New Jersey. According to our map of the northeastern states, US 40 would take us across New Jersey until we reached the intersection with State Road 559. We would veer off to the right and drive ten more miles to our destination. Sounds simple, doesn’t it?
After an early dinner in Wilmington, Delaware, there was still plenty of daylight left to drive across the Garden State. US 40 isn’t a freeway, but it’s a good road to see the USA. This drive was a welcome break from the monotonous interstates. We enjoyed the first part of the drive.
My first indication something was wrong was the sign that said, “Welcome to Vineland, New Jersey’s largest city.” I have nothing against Vineland, but I didn’t expect to drive through this city. My second indication something was wrong was the numerous stop signs. I was obviously not on a main road anymore. I was in a neighborhood with people hanging out on the street corners. My suspicions were confirmed when the road became the driveway to a cement factory. So there we are, not knowing where we are or how we got there. We are two thousand miles from any road we have driven on twice and it is getting dark. We were totally lost. By the way, we needed gas.
We took a deep breath or two and looked around. We saw an overpass to the north of us. If we could find that overpass, we would probably find a main road. This road could take us to a business district where we would find a gas station. We could get gas and directions to Ocean City. It’s a good thing this plan worked well, because it was very dark by the time I pulled into the first available gas station.
In 1982, there was still such a thing as full service gas stations. It was customary to ask the gas station attendant for directions to this place or that place. When I asked the young man where US 40 was, he put on a confused face.
He said, “I think that is north of here. If you turn right at the next light and keep going, you should get to it.”
I asked myself, “What kind of gas station attendant is that? He doesn’t even know the local roads that well.” But I didn’t have much choice and I knew I was south of the road I wanted. So I turned right, onto a main avenue, and drove north. After several miles, I started to doubt I was going the right way. But sure enough, I found US 40, after driving for ten miles!

The next day, my wife’s cousin described a drive she took on US 40. She missed a turn, but hoped the road would parallel US 40. She ended up in the driveway of a cement factory. I think I know the place.
We did learn a few lessons from this escapade. First of all, it’s a good idea to have good local maps. Secondly, the locals probably do know what they are talking about. When all else fails, trust them. And last but not least, someone else may have made the same mistake you did. You aren’t a total idiot after all.
I like to look at this learning experience as a parable on life.  As we drive down the wrong road, everything seems fine, until it isn’t.  How many times in our lives do we find ourselves lost? What decisions have we made that put us on the wrong track? How do we get back on track? Perhaps we can ask somebody with more experience, such as a parent or other older relative who has been to the cement factory driveway before you. You may not even believe the directions will work or you may think the way is too long. But the advice you get from someone who has been there is correct. It will get you back to the right path.
It is always better to stay on track. The Principles we use to guide us through this life are like good maps. Do we have the good maps and do we follow them? If not, we could already be lost and not even know it… yet.
 

Sunday, September 23, 2012

A New Years Eve Wish



New Years Eve
Jack Walker hated New Years Eve. While the rest of the world would be celebrating, he’d be at home, mourning his wife. It happened on New Year’s Eve thirteen years ago. After a night of revelry and hard drinking, he had woken up with a severe hangover.  Christine never woke up. The medical examiner said it was alcohol poisoning. She was only twenty six years old and looking forward to starting a family. What a waste.
He was hoping for a busy day at the office, so he wouldn’t have to think about her all day. Jack got into his red mustang twenty minutes early, drove to the Bay Area Rapid Transit System terminal, and rode the train the rest of the way into San Francisco. While walking briskly to work, he was accosted by a street beggar. She looked like a gray haired hippie in a tie die shirt and she was selling plastic wish bones.
She said, “Five dollars for a wish? It’s to support the New Beginning’s Woman Shelter.”
He said, “Only five dollars for any wish I want?”
“Whatever you wish for, but you need to keep it a secret.”
“Okay, if it’s for a good cause.” Jack handed the old woman a five dollar bill and yearned for his bride. The old woman looked deep in thought and then her face brightened.
“Yes,” she said, “We can do that. Expect some changes in your life. Happy New Year.”
Jack was still thinking what a strange woman that was when he trudged to his office cubicle. His cubicle was still the same. The Employee of the Month Certificate for November was pinned to one wall, a testament to his hard work for Pacific Gas and Electric. A 2013 yearly calendar, featuring national parks, hung on the other wall. He longed for a family to take to those parks. A picture frame held his most prized possession at his desk. It was a picture of a beautiful woman with long red hair and freckles in a white wedding dress. It was taken six months before she died.
Jack sat down, turned on his computer, and typed in his user name and password. The stupid computer displayed “INVALID PASSWORD. Retype user name and password.” After a pause, he typed in a password he had never used before, “nHti0b,t?wdih.”   The drinking song, “In heaven there is no beer, that’s why we drink it here”, came into his head. Much to his surprise, the password worked and the computer log in process started.
Pete O’Reilly, from accounting, and Whitey McPhee, came into his cubicle. This was a surprise to Jack, because he never associated with these men.
Pete said, “Hey, Johnny Walker, be at my house at eight, and bring your own bottle, or should I say bring your own bottles?” Whitey nodded in agreement.
Jack said, “What are you jerks talking about? I gave up drinking thirteen years ago after my wife drank herself to death. Get out of here. I have work to do.”  The two men stared at Jack like he was from another planet.
“Okay,” Pete said, “Whatever you say. Happy New Year.” As they left, Jack’s phone rang. It was his boss and he sounded upset. He ordered Jack to his office.
His boss said, “Jack, your work performance this last year has been marginal at best, but this month has been totally unacceptable. You’ve been making too many stupid mistakes and you’re working too way slow. I know you can do better, but if you don’t, I’ll fire you. Do I make myself clear?” Jack just nodded. “Good, then sober up and get to work!”
Jack, stunned, confused, and shaking, retreated to his cubicle. His Employee of the Month Certificate was gone. Jack sat down and closed his eyes. He was convinced someone was playing a cruel hoax, but couldn’t imagine who or why.
Well, no matter, he had work to do. The first thing was to print out his morning report. He retrieved his report from the printer and returned to his desk to check his calendar. The National Parks calendar was replaced by a calendar featuring people enjoying Johnny Walker Whiskey. He angrily tore the calendar down and trashed it. When he looked up, the photograph of Christine was missing. He frantically searched under his desk, in the desk drawers and the trash can. He found the frame in the trash can, but with a different photo.
Jack stared in disbelief at this new found photo. It was in a frame with broken glass, as if someone had thrown it to the floor in an angry rage. There were three persons in the photo.  A red haired woman, with short hair, resembled Christine, but ten years older. There was a boy, about ten years old, who had the same brown hair and brown eyes as Jack. He looked like the son Jack never had. His sister, about eight years old, had the same beautiful red hair and freckles that her mother had. Jack removed the photo from the frame, turned it over and read the caption.
“Christine, age 37, Marvin, age 10, Erica, age 8. 2010.” This was his family from two years ago? That was impossible. Christine died eleven years before this picture was taken. With trembling hands, he looked closer at the caption. Marvin and Erica were the names he and Christine were going to name their children. And the caption was written in his handwriting.
Jack’s boss came into the cubicle and noticed Jack was distraught.
His boss asked, “What are you doing here? I just remembered, I told you yesterday that you could take the whole day off.  Did you forget and come to work anyway?”
“You know, boss, I really could use the rest of the day of. I’m having trouble at home I need to take care of.”
“Well, Happy New Year, but don’t come back to work hung-over.”
Jack rushed out of the office. Did he really have his wife back? Did he really have a son and daughter? He had to find out now. He took the first train across the bay and ran to the parking lot. A silver Focus was parked in his usual parking spot. Confused, Jack perused the parking lot and found no red mustangs. On a hunch, he pulled out his car keys and pressed the Unlock button. The focus unlocked and Jack climbed into his car. As he gripped the steering wheel, he noticed a gold band on his left ring finger. He hadn’t worn his wedding ring in ten years, but he wasn’t surprised to see it on his hand now. He was anxious to meet his beloved Christine and his children.
The outside of the house was unchanged. It was still yellow with brown trim. He took a breath and entered his house.
A voice from the kitchen said, “Oh, it’s you. Why are you home so early? Did you finally get fired?”  Christine glared at him with contempt.  She was thirteen years older, her hair had streaks of gray, she had gained some weight and her scowl hid any elegance she once possessed.
Jack said, “I took the day off.”
She pulled a can of beer from the refrigerator, popped it open and slammed it on the table in front of Jack.
She said, “I’m going shopping. The kids are next door.” Without a further word, she ran out the front door, slamming it behind her.
Jack inspected his house. The children’s school pictures hung in the hallway. Marvin was now twelve, trying to smile for the camera. Erica was now ten. Her red hair was even more beautiful, but the blue eyes appeared haunted, as if hiding an inner hurt.
The first bedroom was furnished as a boy’s room. Old blue paint was peeling from the walls, dirty clothes were piled in one corner, school books littered a dusty bookshelf and a new basketball sat on a dresser. It was still in an unopened box. The second bedroom was painted pink with a bed suited for a ten year old girl. Posters of the latest teenage heart throbs were posted on her walls.
The master bedroom furnishings were unchanged. However, one of the two closets was filled with women’s clothes. It could have been thirteen years ago, just before his Christine died. If his Christine died, who was this Christine? What kind of man was she married to? Was he an alcoholic who treated his family like dirt? This might explain her hateful scowl, Erica’s inner hurt and Marvin’s half hearted smile.
Jack continued his inspection with the back yard. The yard and patio were still there, but the basketball hoop was missing. He found a new basketball hoop in the garage, having never been installed. Jack entered the back kitchen door as Marvin rambled through the front door.
“Oh, hi Dad,” he sullenly said. “I know. I need to clean my room. I was going to do it now, I swear I was.”
“That can wait,” Jack replied, “let’s put up the basketball hoop.” Marvin was too surprised to say anything, but gladly followed his father outside. In half an hour, they were ready for a game of one on one, using Marvin’s new basketball.  It had been thirteen years since Jack bounced a basketball and his lack of practice showed. His twelve year old son was dribbling all around him.
He was huffing and puffing when Christine came home. She looked at her husband and son with astonishment. She was about to say something when Erica cried out from the kitchen.
When Jack entered the kitchen, Erica cried, “I didn’t mean to. It was an accident. I thought it was empty.” Erica had knocked the beer bottle over, spilling its contents on the table and kitchen floor. “Please don’t hit me, Daddy, I swear it was an accident. I’ll clean it up.”
Jack said, “Don’t worry, sweetheart, I know it was an accident. You didn’t put it there. Anyone could have knocked it over.”
Christine snapped, “Are you saying it’s my fault?”
“No, I’m saying it’s my fault. I’ll clean up this mess.” Mother and daughter watched in amazement as Jack searched for the cleaning supplies and started mopping the floor. Their amazement increased when Marvin pitched in to help. After the kitchen was cleaned, Marvin continued beating his father in basketball. The game ended when a cold winter rain drenched the players, who retreated into the kitchen.
Christine handed Marvin a soda, pulled out another beer bottle and plopped it in front of Jack.  Instead of opening the beer, Jack helped himself to a root beer.
“Hey Dad,” Marvin said, “I betcha I can beat you on the Wii.”
“You’re on. Get it set up.”
On the WII gaming system, each player was represented by a cartoon character created by each player. Jack frowned when he learned that the Mii” representing the father of the family was named “Beer Belly.” His children showed him how to create a new “Mii” that he named “Power Man.” Then they showed him how to delete “Beer Belly.”  When he did delete Beer Belly, he noticed a wistful smile on Erica’s face. Jack dropped the Wii controller and looked at his son and daughter.
He said, “You don’t like seeing your father drunk, do you?” They sat there quietly and shook their heads.
Then Erica suddenly screamed, “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you when you’re drunk. You’re mean and nasty. I hate you!”
Marvin said, “She’s right Dad. And nothing you do can change that.”
Christine barged between her children and Jack. “Don’t you dare lay a hand on them, you jerk.”
Jack calmly said, “I’m not mad. Marvin, Erica, can you help me pour all that beer down the sink?” Christine sat by in astonishment as beer bottle after beer bottle was emptied down the drain. She produced two bottles of wine that were also emptied. Those were the wine bottles they were supposed to take to the New Years Eve party. Instead, Christine called to cancel the baby sitter.
The family returned to the computer game and soon lost track of time. The game was interrupted by the smell of burning food. Christine rushed to the kitchen to find the casserole burned. She looked at Jack with great fear.
Marvin said, rather flippantly, “No great loss. I don’t like that stuff anyway.”
Jack said, “Hey, your mother works hard all day. You need to show some respect. Honey, don’t worry about dinner, I’ll fix something. No, I have a better idea. Marvin and I will make dinner.” Marvin was too surprised to object and Christine was beyond surprise. In another forty-five minutes, Marvin was putting a steaming hot pan of homemade spaghetti on the kitchen table.
As Jack savored this home cooked meal, he said, “Marvin, this is the best spaghetti you have ever made.”  After dinner, Jack helped Christine clean up. He wanted to hug her, to squeeze her tight and tell her how much he loved her and missed her. But she hardly even looked at him and worked in silence.
They had a small New Years Eve party, just the four of them. The rain stopped long enough for another game of basketball, this time two on two. Nobody kept score. When the rain started again, they retreated back to the kitchen for root beer floats. Before they knew it, everyone was saying “Happy New Year.” Erica and Marvin hugged their parents good night and went to bed.
Jack went to his bedroom a few minutes later. Christine confronted him, scowling mad and pointing a gun. Jack put up his hands.
“Who are you?”she demanded.
“I’m Jack.”
“Bull! You’re no more my husband than I’m the queen of England. Oh, you look like him and sound like him. But you don’t act like him! He’s a no good lousy creep. He would’ve beat the tar out of poor little Erica for spilling that stupid beer. And he’s never played ball with Marvin. Never! Do you remember the last time I burned dinner?”
Jack had to shake his head no.
“You beat me so bad that your son called the police on you. I don’t know why I let that brute back in the house. But who are you? What did you do with my husband? What do you want? Tell me now!”
“Christine, in my world, I loved you. I loved you more than anything else in the world. Thirteen years ago, on New Year’s Eve, we drank too much. When I awoke on New Year’s Day, 2000, you were dead. I’ve missed you so much ever since. And I wouldn’t drink another beer again even if you pulled that trigger.”
“You expect me to believe that?”
“No. I don’t believe it either. But this morning, on my way to work, I bought a wish from a street vendor. I wanted you back. ” Christine’s hard scowl softened.
“Don’t tell me. She was selling plastic wishbones and she said, ‘We can do that.” He nodded in surprised agreement. She put the gun down, reached for her purse and pulled out a plastic wishbone.
She said, “I also bought a wish.” With her radiant smile, Christine never looked more beautiful.  “Happy New Year, darling.”